Domestic Violence is NEVER Okay
I’m sure you’ve all heard by now the story of Chris Brown hitting Rihanna. It has been reported that she has bruises but no one knows anything beyond that. He turned himself in shortly after the 911 call, but was bailed out soon thereafter. Because of all this negative publicity, Chris Brown was dropped from his Wrigley’s commercial contract, and the radio stations have stopped playing his over-played songs (In my opinion, he deserves worse than that, and none of his work should be praised, period).
Some say that it’s not a big deal and that “we don’t know for sure what happened.” Well, I’m sorry, but that’s the biggest bullshit I’ve heard. If he were to be “innocent,” then why did he turn himself in? Also, he wouldn’t have let this negative publicity go so far as to hurt his career. I don’t care WHAT his excuse was, whether he “wasn’t in a good mood” or “Rihanna did something to piss him off,” that gives him NO RIGHT TO HIT HER. Nothing and NO ONE gives a guy a right to hit a girl, and domestic violence is something to be taken seriously.
This blog isn’t necessarily about Chris Brown or Rihanna, but about the millions of people who suffer from domestic violence and feel helpless. A study done in 2000 showed that approximately 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are physically assaulted by an intimate partner annually in the United States… and that was nine years ago, it’s much higher now.
In 2000, 1,247 women and 440 men were killed by an intimate partner. In recent years, an intimate partner killed approximately 33% of female murder victims and 4% of male murder victims.
Here are some other interesting statistics I found (I couldn’t find up-to-date stats but imagine that they are much higher than what I’m presenting to you):
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, between 1998 and 2002:
* Of the almost 3.5 million violent crimes committed against family members, 49% of these were crimes against spouses.
* 84% of spouse abuse victims were females, and 86% of victims of dating partner abuse at were female.
* Males were 83% of spouse murderers and 75% of dating partner murderers
* 50% of offenders in state prison for spousal abuse had killed their victims. Wives were more likely than husbands to be killed by their spouses: wives were about half of all spouses in the population in 2002, but 81% of all persons killed by their spouse.
(Pictured above: Woman put on fire by her “significant other.” She’s one of the lucky few who have survived)
And it goes beyond domestic violence. There are millions of children who are abused daily. Millions of elderly who are abused daily. The list goes on. Whether it be a guy or a girl, it’s not right, and it is preventable. So please, if you or someone you know is a victim, call the National Domestic Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (for the deaf). The website is http://www.ndvh.org/. There is help, and you should never feel alone.